In the world of dieting, it is easy to develop negative thoughts that can work against us. These thoughts can come from diet books, magazines, television commercials, social media and more. Food thoughts and judgments run widespread through our minds, but how often do we take a moment to focus on them and notice what we are saying to ourselves? These thoughts are not born with us. Instead, we hear them as we grow up, take them in, and sometimes establish them as set rules, some negative and some positive.
When thinking about these voices, a few questions come to mind:
Where do these voices come from? What in our past or present has made us think this way?
What is the tone of the message? Critical, shaming, harsh, makes you feel guilty? Or open, curious, helpful?
What information is the food police sharing? Is it reliable? Is it something that directly affects you?
What are the affects of this information? How does it alter my thoughts and actions?
Even when these thoughts are evaluated, they stick in the consciousness of the people who think them. We have found that in this world of dieting and eating, specific voices will pop up from time to time, ultimately influencing how we feel and how we behave.
A few of these voices can be classified. By reading the descriptions you can see which are helpful to you and which are not:
This voice causes guilt and is full of judgment. It keeps the eater in the dieting world, and out of touch with inner cues of eating.
The Nutrition Informant uses nutrition as a driving force to keep you dieting.
As you rebel against dieting this voice usually results in overeating and self-sabotage.
The Food Anthropologist is a neutral observer that can give you a distant perspective into your eating world. This voice is nonjudgmental and keeps you in touch with your inner psychological and biological signals.
The Nurturer helps to disarm the verbal attacks from the Food Police. This voice helps you get you through the tough times and is nowhere near harmful.
Negative Self-Talk (And How to Change It)
When thoughts about eating are irrational or distorted, the negative feelings we develop escalate more and more rapidly. As a result, eating behavior can end up consequential and destructive. Therefore, we need to replace the irrational thinking with rational thoughts. This allows us to control our feelings and later, our behavior.
To get rid of distorted diet thoughts, you first need to identify the irrational thinking that is going through your mind. Ask yourself:
-Am I having repetitive and intense feelings about food and my body?
-What am I thinking that’s leading me to feel this way?
-What is true or correct about this belief (if anything)? What is false? Remember that just because you think something it doesn't necessarily mean it's true. Think of a more positive thing to say to retaliate against any negative voices.
Go for the Gray. Gray may seem to be a dull color, while black and white are dramatic extremes. In the world of eating, however, going for the gray can give you an array of choices. Give up the notion that you must eat in an all-or-nothing fashion. Allow yourself to eat the foods that were always restricted, while checking your thoughts to be sure that they support your choices.
Self-Awareness: The Ultimate Weapon Against the Food Police. The next time you see yourself eating in a way that feels unsatisfying or out of control, give yourself the gift of remembering what you were thinking before you even took the first bite of food. Examine that thought and challenge it. As you get more proficient at the Intuitive Eating process, you’ll be able to catch these thoughts before they make you feel bad or cause undesirable behavior.
Become self-aware. Listen for the different voices that can either serve as your support or saboteur. Discard the layers of negative voices and create an opportunity to form a healthy relationship with food.
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